The love for Kizomba explained and felt…

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Probably everyone who dances Kizomba, including all styles, experiences this certain feeling of dizziness, the flow we get into while dancing and in particular during and after a dance festival. We feel physically exhausted, sore and highly energized at the same time, after getting lost on the dance floor for the majority of the day and night, getting almost no sleep but the unique feeling which cannot be understood without having experienced it.

In our daily lives, we cannot think of anything else than dancing and it feels like a constant crave for something that is essential to our lives. We thrive of this feeling, experiencing a connection which allows us receiving an insight into our dance partner’s body and mind within a bigger picture. It could be described as a human need and an event which sets the world on pause and lets us forget about time and space. So, what is it that leads to these steadily growing feelings for a social dance which seems just slightly different from others for an outsider? A dance we cannot get enough of and chase after every dance opportunity we get.

From a scientific perspective, the answer is simple: oxytocin and conditioning. When we dance, we hug each other a lot of the time and this leads to a release of a hormone with positive effects which are complex creating feelings of happiness, peace and relaxation. With this so-called ‘cuddle hormone’ weapon you are protected against any kind of dark clouds.


If you have a certain repertoire of positive experiences, conditioning is probably already happening the next time you dance. As soon as you step on the dance floor, listen and feel the music and begin to dance, you associate this event with feeling great. So, your body might go easily into autopilot mode aka happiness mode. And if this happens over and over again, the effect of conditioning brings us even faster into that positive, for some people almost therapeutic, state of body and mind.

Yes, surely, this is not all. The feeling of connection by moving our bodies like an entity understanding each other without even saying a word is like no other. First, it does not matter what profession, age, nationality you have and what language you speak – here, the only language you need to communicate is dance.

You communicate by your body language, musicality,

Dance is the kind of language and sort of a release valve that allows emotions to be expressed freely, as words never could. You might even hold on to emotions about which you do not know that can be ‘spoken’ about and expressed through dance. You communicate by your body language, musicality, the ability to listen to your partner’s hearing and competence of interpretation which can lead to a strong connection which seems far beyond physical explanations. It is the exchange of energies while continuously offering each other appealing incentives.

And secondly, perhaps one of the most valuable aspects: the moment of presence, kind openness and genuineness. For a certain amount of time, may this be just a few songs or hours, you are in a bubble where the only focal point of attention is between the two of you, breathing and living the moment for each other, almost forgetting about the world. Two different energies taking and giving sparkles and eventually evolving uniting into one. In our fast-living lives with our busy jobs, structures, conventions, judgements, opinions and superficiality, there is nowhere else this kind of exclusivity of two strangers bearing a unique gift of presence and attention for each other. You share the same music, the same kind of unspoken language, the same deep pulse and experiencing all this together, even if we don’t know each other and all this creates a strong bond and leaves us completed.

Yes, if there is light, there must be shadow. But for now, let’s leave it here and be grateful for the positive things. And if Kizomba is your human need, let’s hope to satisfy it and sparkle soon again.

By Jasmin for Danse-mag

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